Saturday, July 26, 2008

A little healthy venting

I just need to vent. I think it cleanses the soul. And I need to do that right now.
(Disclaimer - it's late, I'm tired, still getting over nasty infection in the body, had a rough day with a 2 year old throwing tantrums due to shear exhaustion, and am really missing the deployed hubby.)

It really chaps my hide when people make me feel like I am less of a person because I choose to stay home with my child. Especially when these types of comments to me, come from members of my immediate family, who decided themselves at one point to be a stay at home parent. Why? Why does your full time job and schedule matter more than mine? Why is it wrong for me to make the choice to stay home with my child? It's not wrong. I see it as being a wonderful thing. And I am so grateful that I am in the situation that I am able to do that right now.

The conversation:
Me: Yah, so I am really proud of Ben for trying to go potty on the toilet. These past few days he has been really insistent on wearing big boy underwear and not diapers. Up until today though he didn't want to sit on the toilet. But today he did!
Family Member: "Oh wow, your day consisted of waiting for Ben to take a poo. How exciting. Well, I have to go and write a 15 page essay and read 3 chapters in my book."
Me: No response except talk to you later, but inner voice says, (Ouch that hurt)

It hurts me to the core. The comment made tonight. Potty training.......not rocket science - I understand this. I didn't accomplish a major life time goal by watching my son sit on the toilet. I did not take college courses to do the laundry, cook dinner, read him The Big Red Barn, practice counting to 5 or singing the alphabet, change a diaper, or budget the bills. But I feel that I am making a difference in my sons life. And right now he is my priority. That is my decision. Why do people feel the need to show one up, even when it's your own flesh and blood? Why the competition? It bothers me more than I can say. But, it really helped typing this up.

Good night blog world ~

Thursday, July 24, 2008


So thanks to bed rest, and Dan being deployed, I have been doing a lot of reading lately. Currently one of the books that I am reading is:

I first heard of Dave Ramsey from my friend Sarah. She attended one of his financial seminars. She taught me about cash envelopes, and the debt snowball. They were able to become completely debt free using these tools among others of Dave Ramsey. I saw this book at the library and immediately knew if I wanted to get truly serious about becoming debt free, then I needed to read this book. And I am so happy I have.

I would suggest this book to anyone and everyone. It is inspiring. Dan and I are working on becoming debt free. And I have to tell you this book is helping us get to that goal.

YAH for healthy living and that includes healthy finances!